B-O-U-N-D-A-R-I-E-S Are a Girl's Best Friend



10 years ago, this was me.


And this is me now.....



How did I get from there to here/ BOUNDARIES.


And I can't wait to share all the deets with you in my newest, upcoming book -


BOUNDARIES for EVERY BELIEVER: Living Life as God Designed -

(8 Essential Keys to Emotional Well-Being)


Because this emotional tool kit propelled me from survive to thrive.


I can't wait to share each of them with you.


10 years ago, I was:


- In a life-threatening car accident that left me in shock trauma for weeks not knowing if I would survive.


- Stuck in a number of hurtful relationships with some family and “so-called” friends as well as colleagues at work.


- Working myself to the bone for other people and leaving no room to “do me”.


- Giving way more time, attention, care, and concern than other people were to some of my relationships and work commitments.


- Tolerating unacceptable behaviors, unknowingly, by remaining stuck in a pattern of all talk and no action with certain players in my life.


- Staying in relationships I should have left a long time ago.


- Trusting untrustworthy people.


- Not heeding some red flags.


- Letting I’m sorry be enough when actions didn’t match these words.


- Excusing other people’s shortcomings, yet, being very hard on myself.


- Confusing forgiveness with reconciliation and reconciliation with amends.


- Not prioritizing my relationship with myself as much as I should have been.


- Trying to set limits but doing so ineffectively.


- Finding myself self-medicating at times.


Fast forward to now and I:





- Am in relationships that are happy, healthy, and trustworthy including the one I have with myself.


- Run a coaching program serving other women who want to go from being stuck in toxic situations and BREAKTHROUGH to healthier relationships.


- Am a published author in a number of local, regional, and national magazines including Business Insider and The Daily at Downtown Hope where I am a regular contributor.


- Wrote a book on Boundaries, my missing link, coming out this fall that I am super psyched about.


- Lead a thriving therapy practice with 10 staff including me.


- Love my life where, yes, I work hard but play hard too -enjoying lots of travel, fun, and time with key family and friends.


- Wake up excited every day - honestly - full of joy and hope and, most of all, love.


How did I do it?


1. I OWNED I WAS THE COMMON DENOMINATOR IN EVERY SCENARIO HOLDING ME BACK


Despite my higher education and life experiences, I still had weak boundaries.

Head knowledge wasn’t enough.

Heart knowledge wasn’t cutting it either.

I needed to dig deep and figure out what wasn’t working and be willing to do whatever was necessary to BREAKTHROUGH or I could continue on the path I was on for the rest of my life selling myself and my dreams short.


2. I LEARNED THROUGH TRIAL AND ERROR EFFECTIVE BOUNDARIES & LIMIT SETTING


So, I got to work learning EVERYTHING I could about boundaries.

I put what I learned into practice until what I was doing worked.

I scoured what God’s word had to say about each and every struggle and made sure what I was doing was in line with what He said.

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